A child-free weekend
This weekend, my daughter left for church camp along with two other kids her age from our church. She has been looking forward to this day since I signed her up one week before the camp. I, too was excited for her because she is beginning to come out of her shell, becoming more independent and acting a little bit more grown-up with each passing day.
Although I have left her with my husband several times in the past 2 years when I went on a solo trip for school and emergency family visits abroad, she has never been away from both of us same time. So I was a little nervous about her going away for the first time.
My daughter can’t keep her excitement. One day before the camp, she packed her own suitcase even though I said I was going to do it for her; she did a very good job, however. She packed extra pair of shorts, underwear, socks, and even packed her goggles for swimming. I went over the suitcase , and her clothes were laid and folded very nicely in the tiny compartment. I was beaming with pride 🙂
Day 1- at noon, last Friday, they left and headed to the campsite riding in the church’s service van. She has with her, a rolled sleeping bag, a pillow, a light fleece blanket and her suitcase. I also urged her to take her diary with her so she can jot down special memories and fun and exciting events during the night.
My husband took a half day off so we can also have a nice weekend by ourselves, do something together that normally we cannot when Lauren is around. I jokingly said that we should drive somewhere far, do something crazy like are on our honeymoon, or have a picnic by a lake and have sex LOL ( a girl can also dream). Anyway, We agreed on watching whatever kind of movie that we can’t usually watch because of foul language or cussing- but not the adult movie that you are thinking!
Friday evening, we drove to Kansas City to see the first Friday event, walked in the sidewalks along with hundred others (mostly and middle adults), strolling and hanging out and listening to different music or bands at every other block downtown. It was strange not to have our daughter in tow. We did not have a little person with us, whining every so often about the heat, the walking, being tired or wanting to go to a toy store.
Day 2- Saturday noon, we drove back to Kansas City and spent two hours in the mall. While my husband went to a guitar store, I went to see a friend of mine who had previously invited me to her Brown bag wine party. I haven’t heard of such a party before. Everyone brings an italian wine (or whatever the host preferred) with a snack, chips or cheese and each person every wine. It was the closest thing I for an adult party without my child in tow; or without everyone talking or bragging about their own kids. Three of the girls did not have any kids, so we talked almost about anything. They talked more about their dogs more than anything lol. Next thing I know, they were talking of ugly dogs and ugly babies and searching the internet for ugly-looking infants and babies LOL. I can assure you that no one was drunk either 🙂 🙂
After we got back home, we were tired and just wanted to put our feet up and relax. We watched a cowboy movie trying to make the most of our time alone. It ’was the second night that I was missing my daughter a little bit. I can’t help it. A mom never stops being a mom just because her kids is away. I asked my husband if he misses our daughter, and he simply said “no” 🙂
Day 3- Sunday morning we went to church. My husband did his laundry after church and I sat down and started writing about our weekend together. We both signed up to help the First Baptist Church with their Vacation Bible School, so we will be there this afternoon. Lauren comes home later this evening.
We did not end up doing the wild and crazy stuff I fantasized about. There wasn’t much to brag about our child-free weekend haha. We are parents. Married for 14 years. There are chores around the house. Stuff broken. Laundry to be washed and folded. We have forgotten how to really it was to spend the day without our child. It’s almost sad and pathetic 🙂 But I’m sure there are more opportunities for us to be alone in the future, and we will just try to make the most of it, live in the moment and spend the day we feel like it, not what society expects us to do.
***By all means, please feel free to share your experience… we all can relate with and learn from one another as parents 🙂